Where do I go from here????

I keep wishing this was a nightmare and I could wake up from. I'm trying so hard to keep myself together but I miss my baby so much. I've grieved losing people very close to me before but this is worse. This is a pain that I have never experienced.

I know my sweet Hope is looking down on me from heaven but I'm selfish and want her back with me. I'll never understand why my little angel didn't get to be with me on earth. I miss the way it felt to know she was in my tummy.

I'm not sure how to move past this. It's hard to see pregnant woman and be happy for them. I cry when I see them it's too much. I know that I don't know their story. They to could have bad a miscarriage or had infertility. I'm just jealous right now.

 I don't want to be around babies and that makes me feel bad. I love babies. I know right now everything all seems too much. I know it is going to take a bit to get myself back to the normal well the new normal. I'll never be the same Hope has changed me.

Bare with me while I go through this roller  coaster of emotions. It's a scary thought not knowing what  the future has in store for us. I pray one day we will get to make Hope a big sister. I know no matter what happens in life I will never forget my angel.

Angel of Hope 

Memories with our little Hope

So it's been a few days since everything has happened. I have been a mix of emotions. I have never cried so much and felt this much pain before. Losing her is the hardest thing in the entire world. I've been missing her so much.

I was thinking about how we will never get to bring her anywhere or do anything with her. Then I though about it. Silly me we did do stuff with her. While she was in my tummy we went to one of my favorite places. We went to Maine. :)

Well not only did we go to Maine but I did and saw some of my most favorite things. So in her short time in my belly she was brought to my favorite light house Nubble Light in York Maine. We also walked on the beach and looked for shells. Now that I think about it I'm thankful I put my hands in the water.

I also went swimming which is my favorite thing to do. So I realized already our angel Hope Blessing has already been and experienced some of her mommies favorite things. I find some comfort in knowing she was there was us. Now I have some wonderful memories with our angel. <3

So I started looking online for something that would fit with our trip she go to be apart of and I found something. Here it is I think it is perfect. <3 I can't wait for it to come in the mail. I'm so excited!!!! Andrew is very happy with it also.

Nubble Light

At the Beach


So happy knowing we we're pregnant





Safely with God... My D&C story

Today I went in for a check up with my OBG/YN to talk about everything that was going on. Well my appointment was at 10am and Dr.Blake was wonderful and we talked for a bit. Due to complications and things going on we had decided on a DNC.. (About a DNC ) It was the best choice with the SubChronic Hemorrhage...

Needless to say he told me he was going to get me in as soon as he could. We'll he did his best and surgery was set for 2pm. The hardest part with signing the paper work was the disposal of remains part. I cried it was all too much for me to read about or hear about. Thankfully the lady having me do the paper work was amazing and supportive.

So my mom came and picked me up from the hospital to hang out at her house for an hour before I had to go back for surgery. I did my best to stay positive and remember our little one was in heaven and this was the best thing to do with everything going on with my body.

When we arrived to Heywood I had some of the most amazing nurses, doctors and so on. So supportive and caring. I couldn't believe how wonderfully I was being treated. I've heard of others having miscarriages and the doctors and so on we're rude and insensitive This for me was not the case. I was blessed!!! One of the nurses even cried she felt so bad.

Everyone was supried with how well I was handling everything. My mom spent the time with me until surgery happened. My poor husband was at work worrying the whole time about what was going on and if I was going to be okay. Must have been hard on him.

Needless to say my surgery went well with no complications!!!! When I came out of surgery it was hard I cried a lot realizing the baby was really gone now. Thankfully at this time my hubby and mom was there. Not to mention the sweetest nurse in the entire world!!!! She said I have a good feeling about you next time I will be helping with the delivery of your baby. :) She even said she you next year.

She was wonderful and I'm thankful God placed everyone today in my life to help me. Without these people today could have been so much worse. She ended up making us our own pot of coffee and dropping the pot off in our room which I thought was super sweet.

When she wheeled us out of the hospital she gave both my husband and I huge hugs and wished us good luck. I could tell she really cared about us. It made a terrible day a day where I could begin to heal.

Andrew and I have been throwing around the idea of naming the baby for healing and all. So we did ended up naming our little Angel who lives in heaven. Even though we don't know the gender we both felt 100% it was a girl.. We named her Hope Blessing. She has given us so much hope about life and was truly a blessing from God.

I know some might find it odd to name a child you have never meet nor know the gender of. This baby is just as important to us as if they we're still on earth with us. We love our baby and look forward to meeting her. <3

Now for the healing to begin!

"An Angel in the book of life wrote down my baby's birth. And whispered as she closed the book "too beautiful for earth."

"If ever there is a tomorrow when we're not together...there is something you must remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. But the most important thing is, even if we're apart...I'll always be with you."
Winnie the Pooh 


Willow Tree Blessing (middle name) from my mom and a sweet little puppy from the hubby 


Hope Blessing Lefebvre
Gone to soon Due 12/28/2013






So here it is......Our Loss

First off I wasn't sure if I could write this blog or if I should. Then I thought to myself that is what this blog was for. It was for me for healing. Though it's also for others going through the same thing. So here I will try and do my best to write what's been happening.

So on April 19.2013 we found out we we're pregnant after 5 years of trying. At the time it was the happiest day of my life. Andrew and I we're so excited to finally learn we we're going to be parents. All of that was short lived and there really isn't a happy ending.

On May 9th I woke up with a little cramping and didn't think much of it. Until later in the after noon I was hanging out with my best friend Natalie and I had started spotting. I freaked out and panicked and didn't know what to do. I called my doctors and they told me I was going to have to come in and get my HCG levels checked. Well Natalie stayed with me as long as she could before she had to go to work.

She was so supportive and I'm grateful I had her here with me while I was going through this. I knew something deep down wasn't right so at that moment I felt the everything around me stop. My husband ended up coming home early from work and off to the hospital we went. The next day they called and told me my levels we're 8,700 and that we we're going to have an ultrasound the following Tuesday.

So at the ultrasound they didn't say much all they said was there was a sac but they couldn't see anything else. The next day they called and told me I had a sub-chronic Hemorrhage which looked to be the cause of why they couldn't find a baby. So they ordered more blood work.

So that day I went and had my HCG levels checked again and they went up to over 16,000 so I had to go back 48 hours later but they only went up to over 18,000. So the doctors and nurses didn't quite understand why my levels we're still going up. So they ordered another ultrasound which leads us to today.

I prayed they would see something but I was prepared for them not too. So as I thought they couldn't find anything and it appeared the hemorrhage had gotten bigger. Needless to say this is not a viable pregnancy. So now I have to wait till tomorrow for them to call and tell me what it is next.

Over the past week my life has been turned upside at first I blamed myself for our loss thinking I must have done something wrong. I know that I did everything I could I ate right, took prenatal vitamins, no caffeine  stopped all my medications, started sleeping better and so on. This is out of my control. So I've cried a lot but I'm ready to move past this.

I'll never forget how amazing it felt to feel pregnant and the joy I felt knowing my little one was growing inside. I know now though that with the gestational sac still being in place this could be a long process. I haven't decided yet if I should let the sac come out on it's own or go a couple other methods. To be honest I don't know if I'm strong enough to keep holding on to something that is no more.

I'm sad because I know I will never get to know if it was a boy or a girl. I'll never get to watch them grow up, hear them talk, see any of their first and so on. I feel robbed of them but I know one day I will be able to meet them in heaven one day. Andrew and I will be plating a raspberry bush in his or her honor because that was the size they should have been.

I know it's not going to be easy because I know when the due date happens I will think of them. I know I will never forget them. I'm grateful that they choose me to be his or her's mommy. I'm not a mom to a child who walks on earth but a child who lives in heaven.

I can say my husband, family and friends have been wonderful through all of this and I'm so thankful for each and everyone of them. I know I will continue to need their love and support as this is not over yet. I do know one thing Andrew and I still want to be parents so we will continue to try till we reach our life long dream.

Praying for a Rainbow Baby!!!!

"Sometimes the smallest things take up the most room in your heart." -Winnie the Pooh

"What we have once enjoyed and deeply loved we can never lose, for all that we love deeply becomes a part of us." Helen Keller


2 Samuel 12:22-23

English Standard Version (ESV)
22 He said, “While the child was still alive, I fasted and wept, for I said, ‘Who knows whether the Lord will be gracious to me, that the child may live?’ 23 But now he is dead. Why should I fast? Can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he will not return to me.”









Hoping everyone is well after Mother's Day

I know Mother's Day can be very hard day for people suffering from infertility. I remember last year when I barely made it though the day all I did or want to do is cry. I find Christmas was another one of those days also. I hope everyone tried to keep themselves busy and not think about the day.

With infertility you might not have a baby in our arms or womb but you have one in your heart. That baby in your heart is the only thing you seem to think about. I hope you all know how strong you are for making it though yesterday!!!

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